DIY Sex toys and games

So it would seem I'm really bad at this deadline thing, but I promise I'll work on it.

Ok. I've been thinking a lot about sex (shocker!), but mostly about intimacy. So this segment about sex toys will be colored by a slightly romantic, extremely nostalgic tone.

Diving right in. Why do people use sex toys?

• To add excitement
• One partner was interested in spicing up the relationship
• People are into diff shit and sometimes like to try shit/ need certain things to get off
• They feel good

I bet there are a whole host of other reasons, but these are the first 4 that come to mind. People like the idea of having interesting sex. It drives them to try new sexual positions, bring food into the bedroom, and even invite 3rd, 4th, or 5th parties.

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It's natural to want to satisfy your partner no matter who he or she may be.

When introducing new things/ people into relationships, it is important to follow 3 tenets:

• Be creative
• Instead of immediately going to the sex shop, think of things you and your partner can do together. A personalized sex gift is less daunting than something you saw in porno and thought was kinky
• Be respectful
• All parties should respect any boundaries that may exist. Just because you agree to try something, doesn't mean you'll like it. Be mindful and aware of a shift in appeal of whatever act you're trying
• Be communicative
• Check in. Make sure everyone is still enjoying themselves. Sometimes early communication is the best way to avoid awkward moments during the acts.

Cool?
Now, I know you're thinking, "Hurry up and tell me how to make sex toys!" OK OK, Jeez Louise.  I learned some of this stuff from a seminar by porn star Madison Young.
The rest is taken from life trial and error.
Sex Games

One of the best anniversary presents I've ever gotten was a homemade sex board game. She made it so it had sex act prizes that were redeemable, like being tied up using either zip ties or rope. It was cute, appealed to my love of bondage and my competitive nature. Above all she MADE IT FROM SCRATCH! Like really, I saw the floor plans for this game....MAJORLY THOUGHTFUL.

Best part is you can use anything around the house and make up any rules you want. I've made up sex versions of Kings (The card drinking game) and cool games using dice.  Remix your favorite game. It's fun.

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Restraints

Personally, unless you already have some handcuffs lying around, I have no idea why people buy them just for restraint. Like if you're doing cops and robbers role play, or you have a thing for metal...that's different. But just to tie someone up? Hell no. Handcuffs cost anywhere from like $10-40 and if you get yourself locked in those bitches it's tricky to get out without the key.

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Zip ties, on the other hand, are $20 for a pack of 1000 at home depot....see the difference? And if get sick of em you can just cut that shit off.

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But if it's the reuseable quality you seek, belts, rope, ties, and scarves are all highly functional alternatives to handcuffs.

If you take 2 long ropes (each measuring just a bit longer than the diagonal of your mattress) and tie them together in middle (should look like a huge X)

Slip in under your mattress so that two of the arms of the X are by the headboard and the others by your feet. Et Voila, wrist and ankle restraints. You could even get creative to avoid having to tie the ropes. When you're not using them, just tuck them under the mattress for later.


Paddles

I guess the first question would be what kind of pain are you looking for? Stingy like getting hit by a switch from your grandma's backyard or getting spanked by a belt? Or more thuddy like a punch in the arm or an open palmed smack on the ass?

For more stingy pain maybe try a thin whippy dowel. Dowels come in various shapes and sizes: the smaller creating a sensation much like being hit with a whip, the larger creating a thuddy pain akin to being caned. The best part is they range from $0.75 to like $3 at home depot.

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Or you could try lumber. Sand a 2x4. Create a safe word. Have at it.

Nipple Clamps

My 2 favorites are bobby pins and clothes pins, though I did just buy clamps from Babeland
The beauty of the bobby pin is that it leaves the nipple accessible. The nice thing about the clothes pin is it gets tighter and you can add a bunch. In fact you can put clothes pins pretty much anywhere that suits your fancy.


It doesn't matter how kinky or tame you are. There are ways for everyone to learn new things about themselves sexually. Be creative. There is no end to the things you can make. Making your own toys can make the acts more meaningful, not to mention possibly saving you money on something that you'll both enjoy.