Broadening My Mind: My adventures in Chinese sexuality

Ni hao!

So I've been in Shanghai for 2 months and I love everything about it.  I love that I almost get killed crossing the street every morning by crazy cab drivers and old ladies on mopeds.  I love that I can walk down the street and hear French, German, Chinese, and Japanese. I love that while I'm walking down the street listening to languages, I can see a random rooster chasing a puppy. 

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It really is a magical place. 

There are some things I don't like, however. My job for one.
My.bosses.are.evil. 

But I won't dwell on it. I'll just say that I'm plotting my escape and hopefully it will be swift and painless. 

The biggest problem with work is I don't have time to explore the city like I'd like. However, despite working 14 hours a day/ 6 days a week, I have still managed to find a Chinese boyfriend. That's right people I have a Chinese boy toy. 

 He's about 6'1 and baby faced. He often showers me with gifts and cooks me dinner. I wish I could say I've been reciprocating.  At any rate, he's wonderful, albeit a total deviation from my male attraction standards.

Background info: I like really stereotypically masculine men. Talking strong, big dicked, muscley borderline douche bags. Problem is...that type usually crosses the border into doucheland fairly quickly (I don't want the guys to be actual ass holes...just kinda cocky and aggressive...). So I don't usually date my type...or men at all for that matter.  

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My Chinese boy, we'll call him Ty, is not a douchebag. In fact, he's kinda really fucking feminine. Which was almost a deal breaker. UNTIL I said to myself,  "He's kinda like a lesbian...I like lesbians."  

Ok so points of clarification:

1. I don't think femininity is the opposite of douchebaggery
2. Mesbian: According to Urban Dictionary is A man with feminine qualtiies who still likes women, or, to put it more crudely, a male lesbian.

Ty UHAULs, dotes on me, loves long conversations, and is a snuggler.  I actually found it kind of annoying, yet endearing.

The one real problem with Ty is that he has the smallest penis I have ever seen. ever. 

The first night wee hooked up, I fully expected him to be small.  I still couldn't help being shocked. But he wasn't discouraged and turned out to be a genius with his fingers. 

I then paused to reflect. He has a little penis, but he's thoughtful and attentive.  Also, during an earlier convo, Ty revealed that he's ever so slightly bi-curious and has had a vibe up his ass before. My mind exploded: Maybe he'd let me peg him! I could be that hot Israeli chick, Yael, from Weeds!

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I decided to keep Ty around. I didn't keep him around simply because I want to fuck his ass hard with my strap on, but I also actually like his company. It's also exceptional language practice. 

Fast Forward two weeks from the initial point of contact. Ty comes over to my house.  We watch a movie and have a wonderful conversation about Chinese politics, sex, and the differences between our respective countries. Finally it's 2AM and we're going to bed. To Sleep. Because while I was working on opening my mind to fucking a man with a little pee pee, I still wasn't there yet.

So we're laying down. And I realize I'm horny. Fuck.

No choice I guess. 

So I choke him and straddle him and kinda start exploring. He asks me if I had a condom. I say no and that "we won't be needing one because I'm not letting you fuck me." Long story short he fucks me with my dildo and it was amazing! And the best part is that he was totally into it! The better part is that the dildo was his suggestion!

The moral of the story is that you shouldn't dismiss people because of supposed physical limitations. They just might surprises you.  

Ty is the first guy with a smaller package that I've met who wasn't discouraged or self conscious. A lot of the American guys I've been with only fuck with their dicks and fail to be more holistic in their love making. To them head is just a means to an end and fingering a prepper.  Needless to say it was refreshing to be with Ty. 

It's now  Moon Festival and I'll be meeting Ty's friends tomorrow, wish me luck!  Maybe an orgy will ensue and more adventures!

Anyway, until next time. Happy Mid Autumn Festival.

What are we afraid of?

Hey hey!

So I realize I haven't written in some time, but I swear!  I have....no good excuse whatsoever. Why so long you might ask?  Since we last met I've wallowed in a sea of self inflicted busyness and stress.  I've quit my job in NYC, packed my shit, and in 2 weeks I'll be living in Shanghai.   

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Ok so this is a pretty major life change, but I still should have and could have made time to write at least once in the last like 3 months. For that, I apologize.

At present I am sitting bored shitless in Douglasville, Georgia eating the most delicious watermelon and the freshest tomatoes. I guess, despite my boredom, living in a place where I can sit on my porch and eat watermelon that grew 5 minutes down the road is a pretty fucking sweet existence. 

During my reflective melon moment, I started thinking about sex. No surprises there. But more specifically about fear.  On some fundamental level, sex is terrifying. Not necessarily the actual act of sex. I mean yes, losing the V-card has that mixed "Oh God pleeeeeeaase don't let it hurt like they say" and the "Oh man this is gonna be exciting" kind of terror. However, I'm referring to the fear of what people will think; the fear of what your sexual interests will reflect about you as a person.

I grew up straddling city limits in Metro Atlanta where there's that fine line between "real Atlanta" and the burbs. Well I belonged to both. I sat splayed with one barefoot firmly planted on Douglasville's formerly dirt roads and one flip flopped foot skipping excitedly in Atlanta's multiculturalism.  Whichever side I was on however, sex was apart of my life from an early age. Folks in Dville fucked outta boredom and perhaps the ATLiens  did too.  All things considered, I was able to avoid having sex until I was 16. 

Fastforward >>  passed the sexual hesitance to the point when I comfortably ecstatic to be having sex with my then boyfriend of 8mths or so. 

Stop.

Me and my boyfriend are wrestling playfully on his bed. Loud laughter. Heavy breathing.  Painful squeals. He chokes me by accident. Surprised moan(s)?

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Pause.

WHAT THE FUCK?!!   

Play. 

Fear slowly setting in. Fear that I'm some sort of deviant for liking the roughness. Is this a gateway? What will I like next, blah blah blah...

But you see my point right. People associate sex acts with all of these greater implications: both character and moral value judgements. 

If you hookup with a chick and you're female, you must be a lez.  You can't possibly just wanna try it out or just be interested in the person regardless of gender.  

We're fascinated by labels. Because let's face it: labels make life easier.  

Tangent.

In my high school Theory of Knowledge class my professor pointed at a pile objects and said find the paper clip. The pile had little metal paperclips, clothespins, those big heavy duty paper clasps, and other similar objects.  Naturally the class picked the traditional paper clip. At that point my teacher picked up a clothespin and clipped the papers he was holding in his left hand. Then with questioning eyes asked us why it wasn't a paper clip if it was holding the papers together. Long story short, he went on this rant about function affecting nomenclature or a name dictating function. 

But I had a point......

Oh folks need labels to reduce confusion.  Or better still. Folks need labels to tell them how they should behave in society. Call someone stupid enough times and they start to believe it. ANYWAY!

So now I've long since come to terms with my sexual interests and quite enjoy my sex life. But I've recently learned that not everyone is able to enjoy their sex lives fully because they're afraid to try new things because of what people might think about them.  Men won't try sex toys because they don't wanna be "replaced" by something potentially more talented than them. Women won't have threesomes because they're afraid their boyfriends will love them less. People won't fuck animals because..... well I guess ya gotta draw a line somewhere.

Perhaps that's the bigger fear. Fear of abandonment or fear of losing function. That fear of being a girlfriend in label but not in function. 

I think society puts a premium on a certain type of romance. Namely vanilla monogamy. Don't get me wrong there is NOTHING wrong with traditional monogamy. Nor is there anything wrong with "normal" sex. Different strokes for different folks and all that shit.  I just think not having a more healthy diversified narrative makes folks feel deviant and reluctant to try new shit some times.

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Then again. It's kinda nice to be deviant and feel deviant. That's kind of the appeal of kinky is that it's...well kinky and not the norm. I think there are some who are afraid of people finding out they don't have kinky sex.

I think the bigger issue is that people don't necessarily feel that they can trust their partners or friends with their sexual interests. And for that I don't know what the remedy is...

I'll end with a excerpt from a GQ article about secret fetishes, My Hardcore Obsession:

"I wondered what was wrong with me. I wondered how many gang bangs I would have to suffer in heaven. Was it like an eye for an eye—a gang bang for a gang bang—or was it some sort of eternal gang bang that never ended? Would I be anally violated? Would I be spanked? Did they have ropes and ball gags and Ron Jeremy in heaven?"

 Why should we feel guilty for what we're into? Like as long as we're not violating someone's rights and shit we should be fine.

Anywho!

I'll try to post more regularly. Check back on Sunday for another post.

Happy Thursday!

Stream of Consciousness Rant: Abortion Pt 1

 So I've been reading about all of this abortion stuff in the news. You've got all the republicans saying stupid shit and all the liberals in uproar.

With all of the media buzz, I have been thinking about government regulation of our rights especially the abortion hot topic. Should there be regulations on abortion? Yes. But to protect whom?

The unborn child who didn't ask to be here? The young rape victim attacked on her way home from school? The ill mother who risks her life if she gives birth? But what about the woman who just wasn't ready to be a mother, financially or otherwise?

What should be evaluated by the woman before she chooses to have an abortion:
Mental health
Was there a traumatic experience that lead to the pregnancy she's now trying end? Is her reasoning sound (in a logical sense, open minded, but not sociopath sense)? Will the abortion cause more psychological damage than relief?

Affect on the woman's life
Can the woman have the abortion safely? What might the aftermath look like?

Financial capability
can the family afford to have a child?

Circumstances
Why does she need or want to have one?

                                                  http://o5.com/how-to-keep-your-mind-sharp/woman-thinking/

What should be regulated by the government:
The Timeline
-regulating how late in pregnancy you can safely have an abortion
-once the child is formed and the sex is formed (during month 3), it's probs too late to abort. I don't think it's safe for the mother at this point...and it's kinda gruesome. Like you can see the entire shape of the baby and shit...you should probably just have it and give it up for adoption.
Here's the timeline I referenced.

Where the real problem lies:
Educating our kids about safe sex and birth control
-Schools teaching abstinence-only health education are being negligent. I'm not saying abstinence is not a viable option. However, the fact of the matter is that not educating children is about ALL of their options just means that when they do have sex they will be unprepared. Kids are having sex in high school and sometimes middle school. They should be informed of the risks and responsibilities before they engage in any sex acts in order to encourage a healthy relationship with sex.

-Educating kids about sex and birth control measures also prevents folks from using abortion as a main form of birth control
One of my college roommate's told me a story about a girl who did just that.  She got pregnant in high school twice and had an abortion twice...but refused to use a condom because it didn't feel good...or the pill because it would make her fat...

Like I told my sister, "You know what doesn't feel good? CHILD BIRTH! You know what'll make you fat? PREGNANCY!"

GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE! Sorry that story still pisses me off. Now while that is perhaps an extreme case, we must avoid these kinds of situations


Why is everyone trying to regulate women's bodies, but when someone suggests regulating men's bodies it's some big joke?

Did you ever see Legally Blonde? It came out 2001 and starred Reese Witherspoon as a "dumb" blonde on a quest to get her man back after he dumps her. The ex-bf leaves sunny California for Harvard Law and a more sensible type of woman for his future career goals.

In this scene, the students debate a stalking case in which a man seeks to claim parental rights over a child produce from his sperm bank sperm.

Impressing Professor Callahan
Legally Blonde — MOVIECLIPS.com

Elle: For that matter, any masturbatory emissions, where the sperm is clearly not seeking an egg, could be termed reckless abandonment.
Professor Callahan: You've just won your case.

So let's look at this a sec. Warner's finishing line was without the male's sperm there could be no baby...

What the fuck kinda shit is that? So in my mind I've shifted my thinking to another video. Flash forward. It's 2012 and Republican men seem especially caught up in telling me if I use hormonal birth control I'm a whore and that if I abort I'm a murderer. They want to insist I have zero claim to my body...because it's not about me; it's about the children of the future.

Without my egg there could be no baby.

So legislation is being drawn to regulate what the hell I can and can't do with my body. Like, here's the thing. Just cuz women can get abortions doesn't mean they're gettin em done every time they get pregnant. They don't just wake up and say hey! I'm preggers let's go check out that new abortion clinic that opened up downtown...  Abortions don't spell the end of the human race. Give women a lot more credit than that.  At the end of the day, if a woman gets pregnant, she has to weigh her options.
She's got to think about what she wants from her life and how a baby would fit into that. She's got to assess whether or not she is able to raise a child and whether the partner is ready/ able to shoulder that responsibility as well. A baby is a RESPONSIBILITY. If you're not in a place to handle it...then sometimes an abortion is the RESPONSIBLE thing to do.

Now. Here come women saying, fuck you! You wanna regulate my body? We're gonna regulate yours. Because after all, without your sperm, there could be no baby.

I think this John Stewart clip "Bro Choice" encapsulates my point:

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Sounds a bit like the Legally Blonde clip, no?  So yea, it was funny...hee hee hee...it ain't that funny. This what's really happening right now. Men are being forced to think about what if they're body's were being controlled...and they think it's some big fucking joke. The shit ain't funny.

Let's see what Ohio Senator Nina Turner says:

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While, this is a bit tongue in cheek, she's hitting on some real points. Men aren't very responsible in how they use Viagra. I know 24 yr old guys with zero erectile problems who've used it just to get that 4 hour erection they mention in the warnings.  But the actual point was that women shouldn't need a permission slip to live their lives. I've already said that women shouldn't be using abortion like the pill, but with proper education of all of the methods of birth control girls and women can make educated decisions before and after they get pregnant.

I can see where both sides are coming from. Babies don't have a say when they're conceived or born and we have a right to protect the voiceless. However, we can't afford to overlook the already living breathing, feeling women. What about their voices and needs? The fact that we live in a patriarchal society only hinders the progress on reproductive rights legislation because biological men don't carry babies and therefore any opinion they voice to regulate women's repro rights feels condescending and uniformed. They don't necessarily understand how it feels to be constantly poked and prodded and judged based on their beauty or lack there of. Women's beauty is scrutinized. We have to measure up to a man's standard. Even in lesbian communities, especially those of color, you can see very hetero-normative gender roles/ views of relationships. It's in our magazines. On our TVs. In our day to day lives. We are barraged by images of the "perfect" woman and first analyzed based on everything from our clothes to whether we rid our bodies of hair or not.  From birth our parents try to instill feminine sensibilities. With this constant focus on our bodies, it's hard not to be pissed off about men dictating something as big as birthing when they already dictate such minute details.


OK. So I don't know that there'll be a part 2 to this any time soon. But this is what flowed out of my head so far. It just really upsets me that it's not an equal opportunity thing. If women need evaluation before abortions and birth control and all that shit, then men should be evaluated before they are able to purchase Viagra. Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is often a mental problem. Viagra, like abortion, can't be a quick fix. We need to get to the root of the situation before we act. But the main point is neither gender has the right to make decisions for the other and people should try to have a more complete/ objective view of the issue before they take sides.

DIY Sex toys and games

So it would seem I'm really bad at this deadline thing, but I promise I'll work on it.

Ok. I've been thinking a lot about sex (shocker!), but mostly about intimacy. So this segment about sex toys will be colored by a slightly romantic, extremely nostalgic tone.

Diving right in. Why do people use sex toys?

• To add excitement
• One partner was interested in spicing up the relationship
• People are into diff shit and sometimes like to try shit/ need certain things to get off
• They feel good

I bet there are a whole host of other reasons, but these are the first 4 that come to mind. People like the idea of having interesting sex. It drives them to try new sexual positions, bring food into the bedroom, and even invite 3rd, 4th, or 5th parties.

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It's natural to want to satisfy your partner no matter who he or she may be.

When introducing new things/ people into relationships, it is important to follow 3 tenets:

• Be creative
• Instead of immediately going to the sex shop, think of things you and your partner can do together. A personalized sex gift is less daunting than something you saw in porno and thought was kinky
• Be respectful
• All parties should respect any boundaries that may exist. Just because you agree to try something, doesn't mean you'll like it. Be mindful and aware of a shift in appeal of whatever act you're trying
• Be communicative
• Check in. Make sure everyone is still enjoying themselves. Sometimes early communication is the best way to avoid awkward moments during the acts.

Cool?
Now, I know you're thinking, "Hurry up and tell me how to make sex toys!" OK OK, Jeez Louise.  I learned some of this stuff from a seminar by porn star Madison Young.
The rest is taken from life trial and error.
Sex Games

One of the best anniversary presents I've ever gotten was a homemade sex board game. She made it so it had sex act prizes that were redeemable, like being tied up using either zip ties or rope. It was cute, appealed to my love of bondage and my competitive nature. Above all she MADE IT FROM SCRATCH! Like really, I saw the floor plans for this game....MAJORLY THOUGHTFUL.

Best part is you can use anything around the house and make up any rules you want. I've made up sex versions of Kings (The card drinking game) and cool games using dice.  Remix your favorite game. It's fun.

 http://www.ehow.co.uk/list_6955851_rules-card-game-_ring-fire_.html

Restraints

Personally, unless you already have some handcuffs lying around, I have no idea why people buy them just for restraint. Like if you're doing cops and robbers role play, or you have a thing for metal...that's different. But just to tie someone up? Hell no. Handcuffs cost anywhere from like $10-40 and if you get yourself locked in those bitches it's tricky to get out without the key.

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Zip ties, on the other hand, are $20 for a pack of 1000 at home depot....see the difference? And if get sick of em you can just cut that shit off.

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But if it's the reuseable quality you seek, belts, rope, ties, and scarves are all highly functional alternatives to handcuffs.

If you take 2 long ropes (each measuring just a bit longer than the diagonal of your mattress) and tie them together in middle (should look like a huge X)

Slip in under your mattress so that two of the arms of the X are by the headboard and the others by your feet. Et Voila, wrist and ankle restraints. You could even get creative to avoid having to tie the ropes. When you're not using them, just tuck them under the mattress for later.


Paddles

I guess the first question would be what kind of pain are you looking for? Stingy like getting hit by a switch from your grandma's backyard or getting spanked by a belt? Or more thuddy like a punch in the arm or an open palmed smack on the ass?

For more stingy pain maybe try a thin whippy dowel. Dowels come in various shapes and sizes: the smaller creating a sensation much like being hit with a whip, the larger creating a thuddy pain akin to being caned. The best part is they range from $0.75 to like $3 at home depot.

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Or you could try lumber. Sand a 2x4. Create a safe word. Have at it.

Nipple Clamps

My 2 favorites are bobby pins and clothes pins, though I did just buy clamps from Babeland
The beauty of the bobby pin is that it leaves the nipple accessible. The nice thing about the clothes pin is it gets tighter and you can add a bunch. In fact you can put clothes pins pretty much anywhere that suits your fancy.


It doesn't matter how kinky or tame you are. There are ways for everyone to learn new things about themselves sexually. Be creative. There is no end to the things you can make. Making your own toys can make the acts more meaningful, not to mention possibly saving you money on something that you'll both enjoy.

Nip Confusion

Hey Hey!
So...I've been on a little bit of a work binge. Hence the lack of posts. BUT. I'm going to try to post every Sunday.

Cool. On that note...
OK. So something that's been on my mind recently is how different everyone's nipples are. They come in all sorts of fun sizes! They can be long or short. Circular or slightly more oval. Hidden or pronounced. They can be tiny little chocolate chips or plump gumdrops.

http://www.ohnuts.com/buy.cfm/bulk-candy/gummies-gummy-candy/assorted-jumbo-gum-drops

But wait there's more!

They come in all these awesome color variations and textures and levels of sensitivity. AND they're fun to play with! Why? Because of all the things that can be done.

*stares into the distance*

Nibbling and sucking, or squeezing and licking, cov'ring in cream or just gently flicking. Pinching and clamping or pulling their rings (these are a few of my favorite things...)

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/30/books/review/Brockes-t.html?_r=1

But I think what most intrigues me is the level of sensitivity or responsiveness. Like have you ever been tonguing a nipple, knowing the girl isn't all that sensitive or interested in you doing that, but you keep going because you enjoy her breasts? No? That just me being selfish again? Oops.  Well the point is, you start out doing it for your boo thinking it's something that's going to stimulate and arouse them, just to realize you are doing NOTHING for them.  Do ya stop licking nips altogether? Or do ya try to figure out how they like them to be handled if at all?

Conversely, you've got the folks with uber super duper sensitive nips, we'll call them the insta-responders. Ya breathe too hard on them and the girl (or guy I suppose) might climax on the spot.  Which may just be one of the most validating, ego boosters in the sex world. Why? Because it makes you feel sexy. Like they're so attracted to you that the moment you so much as rub her nipples through her shirt she's ready to let you explore her. And who doesn't want to feel wanted? Then there's the teasing aspect. You take a piece of ice or something and kind of just fuck with her for shits and giggles. It's a total power trip. Albeit a little rude.

http://shiftlock.tumblr.com/post/475692657/mmmm-nipple-icing

But then you have the in-betweeners. The ones who you can sometimes get a rise out of, but other times it almost feels like a waste of energy to touch the nipples at all. In my experience, they generally like breast play i.e. a hard palming of the entire breast, but may not always respond to direct nipple contact. I feel like you could almost lick circles around the nip (without touching it much) and be in business. But you can't not touch them, cuz you never know when they want you to take that initiative.

However, my absolute favorites are rough touchers. Because they like their breasts and nipples to be handled roughly. No holds barred. Hard biting, yanking chains attached to taut nipple by two bobby-pin-esque nipple clamps, pinching, smacking, twisting....*Deep inhale*

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Anyway. You see my point.

Regardless of the nipples, I don't think the goal of sex is to get off. Orgasm tends to be a cool side effect of sex. If you think about it, sex is about the journey.  Now I'm not gonna sit on some bisexual pedestal and act like I haven't had sex for the sheer purpose of coming (re my first post in which I told you I have a habit of fucking men to get myself off). But in GENERAL the actual act of figuring out what your partner wants at the time (cuz lord knows people don't always crave the same kind of stimulation) is the fun part.

Like, it pisses me off when I'm fucking someone and you can tell they're just searching for the "spot." Does anyone else feel like that's very high school?
1. Why are you working so hard instead of enjoying my company?
2. My whole body is a spot- play with it.
3. Really? Just really.

But I digress.

At any rate talking about the rough touchers made me wanna talk about DIY sex toys. Because buying sex toys are fucking expensive and making shit is soooooo much fun! So next time I'll talk about making sex toys with things you can find at your local home depot.

Later!

War on Women

Double Standards

I...have a problem. I'm sexist. When I'm fucking guys, I'm not a fan of any sex acts that don't end in my pleasure.

That means:

Titty fucking?  No
Spit or swallow? Neither, why aren't you coming inside of a condom inside of me?
Fake orgasms? Not since I was 17

Daily Mail UK: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-1119424/The-mathematical-formula-proves-couples-NOT-sex-date.html

Ok so I know that's selfish and sex should be about mutual pleasure: indulging both partners' deepest desires. HOWEVER! In my mind, in the casual sex universe, if guys are allowed to cum when they want, how they want, and on whichever body part they want, then why can't I? I almost feel like I'm equalizing the gender sexual pleasure gap when I refuse to fake orgasms or decided to get myself off by riding him with no regard for his satisfaction.  Cuz let's be real, whether I cum or not..he will.

But with women, I feel this obligation to give them everything they need. Dote on them. Take time with them. Be patient with them. Is this more of the gender equity? Or am I just vain?

So me and this girl were discussing her sex life. She was going on and on about how her boyfriend has never made her cum and how she fakes it to make him happy because she doesn't wanna see him emasculated... I get that. You want to satisfy your partner and see them happy, et cet.  But what was crossing my mind?  I said to myself, "I could help you out. You deserve orgasms and ecstasy...I can give you those. What a shame. Her man is a fucking loser." 

 

Superwoman by ~Runaway11223

Where do I get off thinking I'm God's gift? I dunno, but it's the feeling that grips me every time I hear these tales of woe.

Anyway!

This is what I said to her, "Hey hun, you gotta be honest with him and communicate your displeasure in a productive way. Guide him, he's not a mind reader. And for God's sake stop faking it!" Because while I'm a lot of things, I'm not a homewrecker.

But I am a sexist.  I have no idea why I hold this double standard. Am I just as bad as the douchiest guy thinking women need saving and I'm just the guy to do it?
Maybe.

Does the fact that I'm a woman sharing the same marginality as other women change anything? Do I cherish women because I sympathize with the experience and fuck over men because I'm bitter?

What do you guys think?